Sexual Problems & Solutions

One of the greatest pleasure of mankind is the gift of love. In love one finds true solace. Love imparts different types of satisfaction upon human mind. One of them is sexual satisfaction. Two human beings become one through sexual oneness. But along with the pleasure come complications, confusions and queries. 

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Awesome Orgasm For Sensual Sex Drive

Every couple's sex life could be even more beautiful and ecstatic if there is a few sprinkles of awesome orgasms. Orgasms can make feel even more closer to each other.

Hit the hot spots

A friction position may help you have an orgasm during intercourse. Get on top, for example, so the top of your clitoris is rubbing directly on your partner’s pubic bone. Or lay on your back with a pillow underneath your butt. You may even want to try using a vibrator during intercourse.

Talk the talk

"Men really want direction," Berman says. Let your partner know when he’s on the right track, either by telling him what feels great or by moaning.

Learn on your own

You can’t talk the talk if you don’t know what turns you on. "To train your body to be orgasmic, you have to masturbate," says Danielle Cavallucci, a sex coach with sex information company Sexuality Source.

Exercise your orgasm muscles

"Kegels are the classic exercise for women who want to transform feeble orgasms into fabulous ones," sex educator Dorian Solot says. Locate these muscles in your pelvic floor by stopping yourself from peeing midstream. Then tone them by clenching when you’re not peeing. Do Kegels every day, ideally a few times a day. And keep breathing while you squeeze.

Get risky

Research shows that engaging in thrill-seeking behaviors together (whether it’s rock climbing or just going to see a scary movie) stimulates dopamine in the brain, which gets your juices flowing.

Delay the pleasure

"The longer the arousal buildup, the bigger the explosion," Solot says. Get yourself close to orgasm, then slow to a simmer. Repeat that a few times before you climax.

Focus on breathing

Tantric sex may sound new-agey, but its central tenet—focused breathing—may boost your pleasure. "You can use your breath to channel your sexual energy," sex educator Yvonne Fulbright says. Partners who breathe in tandem may slow the rush to orgasm and create a bigger buildup, which can intensify pleasure.

Explore erotica

Porn isn’t all about big penises and deep throats. Erotic movies and books can be tasteful and arousing, and the more aroused you are, the better your orgasm chances.

Try creative foreplay

If it takes you longer than your partner to warm up, Fulbright says, get a head start by e-mailing or texting each other sexy messages (but don’t get too graphic—e-mail is not necessarily private).

Check your meds

Women are more likely than men to take antidepressants, which are known to hurt a person’s sex life. If you’re having trouble, talk to your doctor about your meds.

Get help early

If you’re not orgasmic, advice from a pro may be helpful. Nerve damage or low testosterone could be the problem. "Your doctor can do a medical evaluation," Berman says, "or look at relationship factors." 

Relax

In a recent French study of 500-plus women, more than 70% said work stress compromised their sex drive. A low libido, obviously, lowers chances of orgasm. So ditch life’s distractions at your bedroom door.

So, make a little effort to have more orgasmic paths towards sex drive , and you'll see how amazing can a sweet and sensual night be.

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Great Benefits Of Sex

Sex is the greatest natural medicine for human body, which heals the negativities of daily life to a great extent.

1. Less Stress, Better Blood Pressure

Having sex could lower your stress and your blood pressure.

That finding comes from a Scottish study of 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. The researchers put them in stressful situations -- such as speaking in public and doing math out loud -- and checked their blood pressure.

People who had had intercourse responded better to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Another study found that diastolic blood pressure (the bottom number of your blood pressure) tends to be lower in people who live together and have sex often.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity

Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. 

A Wilkes University study had 112 college students keep records of how often they had sex and also provide saliva samples for the study. Those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA, an antibody that could help you avoid a cold or other infection, than other students.

3. Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

"Sex is a great mode of exercise," Los Angeles sexologist Patti Britton, says. It takes both physical and psychological work, though, to do it well, she says.

4. Sex Improves Heart Health

A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex two or more times a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month.

And although some older folks may worry that sex could cause a stroke, the study found no link between how often men had sex and how likely they were to have a stroke. 

5. Better Self-Esteem

University of Texas researchers found that boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex.

That finding makes sense to sex, marriage, and family therapist Gina Ogden. She also says that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better.

"One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves," she says. "Great sex begins with self-esteem. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it."

Of course, you don't have to have lots of sex to feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem is all about you -- not someone else. But if you're already feeling good about yourself, a great sex life may help you feel even better.

6. Deeper Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms boosts levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps people bond and build trust.

In a study of 59 women, researchers checked their oxytocin levels before and after the women hugged their partners. The women had higher oxytocin levels if they had more of that physical contact with their partner.

Higher oxytocin levels have also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So snuggle up -- it might help you feel more generous toward your partner.

7. Sex May Turn Down Pain

Oxytocin also boosts your body's painkillers, called endorphins. Headache, arthritis pain, or PMS (Premenstrual Syndrome) 

symptoms may improve after sex.

In one study, 48 people inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked. The oxytocin cut their pain threshold by more than half.

8. More Ejaculations May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely

Research shows that frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may lower the risk of getting prostate cancer later in life.

A study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that men who had 21 or more ejaculations a month were less likely to get prostate cancer than those who had four to seven ejaculations per month.

The study doesn't prove that ejaculations were the only factor that mattered. Many things affect a person's odds of developing cancer. But when the researchers took that into consideration, the findings still held.

9. Stronger Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing pelvic floor muscle exercises called Kegels may mean more pleasure -- and, as a perk, less chance of incontinence later in life.

To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.

10. Better Peaceful Sleep

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, research shows.

Getting enough sleep has also been linked with a host of other health benefits, such as a healthy weight and better blood pressure. That's something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

So, make yourself flow with the waves of subtle and inexplicable beauty of sex. Go with your instincts and urges to have a healthy, protected sexual life. This immense urge to feel inside each other, can practically make your life more graceful and radiant, full of joy and good health.

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Get Amazingly Long Lasting Erection

It's the eternal quest: How do you increase the size, strength and stamina of your erections? There are endless treatments, ointments and devices claiming to pump up your volume with hit or miss effects. The amazing reality is that with a little more conscience and nourishment, you can maximize your erection on all fronts for a unbelievably long period. 

1. Eat well

Raising a massive erection is an expensive proposition for your body. Blood and hormones all take up valuable nutrients. So good nutrition is key for those looking to having sex multiple times. Carbohydrates, being the building block of energy, are essential. Our sexual needs require eating carbs and plenty of them! Pasta and bread are solid carb sources. You also need to ingest zinc every day. Zinc is vital for production of testosterone, seminal fluid and sperm. You can find this mineral in liver, seafood, peas, and beans. Or take a zinc supplement. 
Avoid high fat meals before sex. Excess fat intake lowers testosterone levels in your body, decreases libido and makes erection and ejaculation more difficult. And an unhealthy diet may lead to poor circulation and hence erection problems. Avoid overeating and stuffing yourself before sex. If you're going out for dinner together, don't gulp down a five-course meal with wine and dessert, at least not if you know you're going to have sex later on that night. Eat at least one hour before sex so you are properly digested. 

2. Get positioned properly

Sexual positions where you are on top, like missionary and doggy style, allow more blood flow and a bigger, sturdier erection. It's gravity, simple as that. So don't do it in positions with her on top at first. The tug of gravity will drain the blood from your erection. Having her on top also gives her control of the movement, so it may lead to your loss of control in well more than one way. 

3. Limit your sensitivity to go longer

The classic way to limit oversensitivity is to wear a condom, which you should be doing anyway. If you don't need to wear a condom with your woman, you can try focusing on other things. Periodically take yourself out of the scene mentally if you think you're going to lose control. The trick is to transport your mind away just long enough to avoid ejaculating too early, but not lose your erection. 

4. Effective device

Most penis enlargement devices are painful, scary and terribly ineffective. There are, however, always those faithful who claim these extreme techniques give them big results. The safest and best bet amongst these is the ever-dependable penis ring. This is a little rubber or plastic ring you place at the base of your penis to trap blood inside, kind of like tying off a balloon. This won't make you bigger, but it will make your penis firmer. 

5. Manage any medication you are on 

Medication for some ailments such as depression, social phobia, OCD, and anxiety are more and more common these days. These medicines are murder on your erection. If you're on these types of drugs, work with your doctor to make sure you're not over-medicated, or it's goodbye sex life.

6. Save your strength

Don't tire yourself out too quickly in the sack. If you exhaust yourself, your erection is going to feel like a marshmallow. Know your limits.

7. Calm your nerves 

Too much anxiety and nervous energy can shrink your penis like a cotton T-shirt. Unfortunately, sex is often riddled with anxiety resulting from a negative body image, a fear of intimacy or concerns about having a small member. This "stage fright" always seems to happen at the worst possible time, like the first time with someone new. So it's pretty essential that you keep yourself calm. 

8. Exercise, exercise, exercise 

Do abdominal exercises. This will help your abdominal muscles support and hold your erection, as opposed to holding your belly. Furthermore, if you have a large gut, it tends to make your unit small by comparison. Being in shape and having a good physique will make you feel good about yourself and up your confidence. This will, in turn, make you comfortable with your body, enticing you to have sex and increasing your sex drive. You can also give your penis a workout with some Kegel exercises. While there's no hard evidence that they will produce a larger size, they will help you stay hard longer. 

9. Don't smoke & drink to excess 

Smoking cigarettes gives you bad circulation. And when you want to get down, the blood's gotta be flowing. So there's one more reason to quit. Drinking too much alcohol numbs your wiener and can inflate your prostate. So don't tap the keg if you want to tap her. 

10. Don't masturbate too often 

You want to save your money-shot for Miss Right, not Mr. Five Fingers. If you ever needed an excuse not to masturbate, that's it. This calls for a little self-control and most of you have that, right?

Keep it healthy, keep it hard

As long as men are unhappy with their size, they'll always be looking for a way to "make it big." Though limitless snake oil-potions and questionable techniques will claim to increase your size or give you a bull's libido, the best approach is to be well-fed, energetic and honestly attracted to the woman you're with.

If the scent of your partner perfume make you think about sex, even if she's nowhere in sight, you're on the right track.

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Get Back Your Sex Life After A Baby

Having a baby is an amazing, life-changing experience. But no matter how in love you are with your little one, caring for a newborn can take a serious toll on your sex life.

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Though getting back in the sexual swing of things can be tough, it’s a necessary process that challenges most couples, says psychiatrist Gail Saltz, MD, at New York-Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell Medical Center., who specializes in sex therapy and is author of The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Can Lead to a Better Life. “It’s difficult, but doable,” she says, as long as you have reasonable expectations of yourself and your body.

Getting the Green Light to Have Sex After Baby

Most women receive the OK from their doctors to have sex between four to six weeks after delivery.

Before you start up again, you should no longer have any postpartum vaginal discharge, known as lochia. Regardless of a vaginal or c-section delivery, all women who give birth go through this period for a few weeks afterward. Having sex before the discharge stops puts you at risk of infection.

If you had a lot of stitches during childbirth, getting the OK to resume sex may take even longer. Stitches that have not fully healed risk opening up. If that happens, see your doctor immediately.

Lack of Sleep Smothers Your Sex Drive

For moms of newborns, sheer fatigue is perhaps the biggest roadblock to feeling sexy again.

Especially at the beginning, a new baby is usually awake to feed every two or three hours around the clock. This pattern can go on for months. About 30% of babies still aren't sleeping through the night by nine months of age, according to the National Sleep Foundation.

While the nighttime wakings continue, it may feel like you’ve become a mommy machine, devoid of sensation and desire.

Dad might be just as tired. But men are still more likely to be interested in sex. To them, it’s often a way to relax and help feel emotionally close to you, Saltz tells. And they don’t need much of a warm-up before diving into sex. In contrast, most women need some talk and foreplay to become aroused.

If fatigue is what’s keeping you from getting your sex life back, the first thing to do is talk with your partner about it, advises Saltz.

“Tell him, ‘I really am tired, but I want to have sex with you,” Saltz says.

Then do some creative problem solving. Saltz suggests asking your partner to watch the baby so you can rest up and get into the mood. Also, aim for early morning sex, when you’ve both had a chance to catch some ZZZ’s. Lean on your family or friends or a sitter so you can have some time without the baby. Or give it a shot when Junior is napping.

Of course, your baby might wake up at the worst possible moment -- while you’re trying to reignite those bedroom flames.

“That’s why it’s important to have a sense of humor about the whole situation. Remember that it’s not going to last forever,” says Cleveland Clinic ob-gyn Elisa Ross, MD.

Postpregnancy Hormones and Sex

Hormones are part of the sex problem, too. Estrogen levels go down after delivery. That can cause a shortage of vaginal lubrication, which can make sex painful or less pleasurable.

A simple solution: Use a topical lubricant during sex.

Experiment with different positions, too -- being on top may allow you more control during penetration, Saltz says.

If a lack of lubrication makes sex hurt, or if sex causes pain for a different reason, explain to your partner that you need to take it slowly. Be sure to discuss the pain with your gynecologist.

Lubrication issues usually go away after you stop breastfeeding or after your period resumes, Ross says.

Hormonal changes after childbirth might also be related to postpartum depression, which can stymie sexual desire. These feelings of sadness, anxiety, irritability, or just having the blues may last for a few weeks or even months. Talk to your doctor if you are having these feelings, especially if they worsen or if you feel hopeless or sad most of the time.


Breastfeeding May Get in the Way

Breastfeeding has many benefits. But it can create several pitfalls when you try to resume your sex life.

Spending tremendous amounts of physical and emotional energy feeding baby may block access to a nursing mom’s sexual mind and body.

“The baby is physically on you, sucking on you, cuddling you - leaving you ‘touched out’ by the end of the day,” Saltz says. Partners often say it leaves them feeling frustrated and left out.

Compassion is just as important as passion. Let your partner bring these feelings out into the open, so you can address them together.

Constant nursing or pumping milk can make your breasts feel so tender you just don’t want to be touched there.

Caressing a nursing woman’s breasts may cause her milk to let down, which can be a turnoff for both partners. Orgasm sometimes can also make milk involuntarily release.

If you’re worried about leakage or tenderness, try keeping your bra on during sex, Ross says.

Body Changes, Inside and Out

During pregnancy, a normal-weight mother typically puts on about 25-35 pounds. It can take a while to shed those extra pounds after the baby is born. Add on newly acquired stretch marks and a fresh scar if you’ve had a c-section, and it’s no wonder so many women say they feel self-conscious, turned off, and even depressed about their new body.

If you’re not feeling so hot about how you look, your partner's positive feedback can go a long way

“You’d be surprised how many people say they still find you quite sexy. That’s what I usually hear,” Saltz says.

Enlist your mate’s help in working toward your body goals. For example, you can ask for a half hour to exercise while they watch baby, or for more support in preparing healthy meals.

Meanwhile, Saltz suggests buying some lingerie that makes you feel sexy while strategically covering up some of your new problem areas.

Another physical issue is that delivering vaginally usually stretches the vaginal walls, which could decrease friction and thus reduce sexual enjoyment.

It can take a while for those muscles to resume their original tone. For some, it never does, according to Ross.

Try some Kegel exercises to tone your pelvic muscles. The repetitive tightening and releasing of those muscles can also help heal the area after vaginal tears or an episiotomy.

With all the changes that might be happening to your body, try your best to embrace them as a part of motherhood.

Be Honest About What's Holding You Back

If you’re still having trouble resuming your sex life -- apart from physical issues -- it might be time to take a look at what’s going on emotionally in your relationship.

“Ask yourself, ‘What is making me uncomfortable enough that I don’t want to express intimacy with my partner through sex?’” Saltz says.

One of the typical emotional blocks is the feeling of anger or resentment about being home changing diapers all day while your spouse rejoins the “real world” and does “normal” things like working outside the house and talking to other grownups.

“If you’re angry about something, you’re not going to want to have sex with them,” Saltz says.

Other big emotional hang-ups are usually from self-consciousness about your body and mental fatigue.

Much of these problems can be addressed through discussion with your partner. Relying on your mate’s support underscores to both of you that you’re in this together.

Don’t forget couples counseling. Ross recommends that every couple proactively seek therapy at least once after having a baby. It might help resolve smaller problems before they can snowball into something bigger.

Explore the Alternatives

Sex is about pleasuring each other and there are many ways to do that,” Saltz says.

If you’re not up for full-blown intercourse, consider oral sex, manual stimulation, and erotic massage as ways to feel closer to your lover.

Even when you’re not feeling sexual, make an effort to express your affection. Try kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddling on the sofa, or giving a relaxing foot rub. Remember to do that during the day to keep alive your feelings of connectedness.


Accepting the New Normal

Although it varies from person to person, most sexual issues women experience after pregnancy get better within the first year, according to the Mayo Clinic.

That first year with baby is physically intensive. During this time, both partners need to accept they might not be having as much sex as they did before.

It’s also realistic to think that you may not ever go back to the way it was pre-baby.

For example, scheduling sex might become the not-so-romantic norm for a while. But if the other option is missing out altogether because your lives are too hectic, then it’s a necessary strategy.

With each stage of your family’s development, you may enter a “new normal” with sex.

It’s not about how much sex you’re having. It’s about being happy and feeling closer to your beloved. If one partner feels denied all the time, it creates a vulnerability in the relationship. These problems have to be addressed right away. Get the enchanting enjoyment of your life back in your hands.

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